"Stop trusting in man, who has but a breath in his 
    nostrils. Of what account is he?" Isaiah 2:22 
    To Miss M., January 19, 1856.
    My beloved friend, 
    I am ashamed of my long silence. I think of you and grieve that your mind is 
    still tried and perplexed by the inconsistencies of others, as I learned 
    from your last pensive note. But, perhaps, before now that cloud has been 
    dispersed. I earnestly hope that it is so, for, indeed, my beloved friend, 
    there is so much crookedness, even in the living family, that we need to 
    remember constantly the words of the Lord which head this page, and which 
    were made powerful to my own soul a few days since. But how slow we are to 
    obey this divine injunction. Even in this sense we may well say, "My soul 
    cleaves to the dust," while we should pray for grace to cease from 
    creatures, neither confiding in them too much for comfort, nor too much 
    expecting to find all consistency within. Frail and imperfect are the best, 
    and this is nothing new, for one of old says, "The most upright is sharper 
    than a thorn hedge," and another, "I have seen an end of all perfection."
    
    Oh! that your tried, tempest-tossed heart may be led to 
    find refuge in the perfect One--the Friend who loves at all times, and 
    sticks closer than a brother, for this precious "neighbor who is near, is 
    better than a brother who is afar off." A brother may look on our wound and 
    pass by on the other side—but this good Samaritan attends to our case from 
    whatever cause be our sorrow, and whatever the hand that may have wounded. 
    His oil and wine heal, and His sweet words soothe the troubled heart, for He 
    has got the tongue of the learned, and knows how to speak a word in season 
    to him that is weary. He is merciful, and He can have compassion on the 
    ignorant. The Spirit of the Lord is upon Him, so that He is anointed to 
    preach the gospel to the poor, to heal the broken-hearted, and bring 
    deliverance to the captives, and to open the prison to those who are bound, 
    to set at liberty them that are bruised. 
    Did I tell you how much I had been profited sometime 
    since by Mark 1:18? The Spirit showed me how many things are as "nets" to 
    entangle us, and to keep us back from following Jesus, and also in how many 
    ways we may be using "nets" to catch some desire of our carnal hearts; but 
    then how blessed when brought to that, "straightway they forsook their nets 
    and followed him." You know, dear friend, that too much poring over the 
    inconsistencies of others may become as a "net" to catch our own feet, and 
    hinder us from looking to Jesus. A friend of mine was once grievously 
    annoyed by what was God-dishonoring in another person. It fretted him much, 
    though he had no power to prevent it; but at length he heard the Shepherd's 
    voice, saying, "What is that to you? follow me," which broke the snare. 
    It is vain to dwell upon that which hinders our own souls and helps no one.
    
    
    How is your health now, and how is the health of your 
    soul? Have you been brought to the venture of faith, even as one dear to me 
    lately said in the view of the all-sufficient Savior, "I felt that I could 
    venture the whole weight of my soul upon Him, though vilest of the vile I 
    felt I was." This was my maid, who has been with us eleven years, and the 
    Lord has just sweetly sealed her for His own, which has made me rejoice with 
    exceeding great joy, for I have long been watching for her soul. Oh, my dear 
    friend, may the blessed Spirit bring you to this. 
    All your weight of sins, sorrows, and cares the 
    Burden-Bearer can sustain. "Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for 
    you." And it is no honor to Him to be carrying it yourself; it must sink you 
    into gloom and dejection. A minister once said, "The Lord tells us to carry 
    our cross and cast our care—but we try to cast our cross and carry our 
    care." I felt much self-conviction from the remark—but must say with the 
    Psalmist, "Nevertheless, he being full of compassion, forgave their 
    iniquity, and destroyed them not." S
    o that, notwithstanding my willfulness and sin in many 
    ways, I am still "the living, the living" to praise Him, as I desire to do 
    this day, and to encourage you to put your trust under the shadow of His 
    wings, for there is healing there. (Mal. 4:2) Do excuse this sad scrawl, I 
    hope you will write soon, if able; and, warmly wishing you every covenant 
    favor, I remain, with much love in our precious Jesus, your affectionate 
    friend,
    Ruth. 
    "The Lord upholds all those who fall and lifts up all who 
    are bowed down." Psalms 145:14